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Thomas J. “Tom” Vera was born May 5, 1954 in Manhattan, Kansas and departed this life on July 25, 2022 at The Healthcare Resort of Olathe in Olathe, Kansas, at the age of 68.

He was the son of Joe and Maria (Gamino) Vera.

Tom spent his younger years in Manhattan, Kansas where he attended Seven Dolors Grade School,
Manhattan Jr. High and graduated from Manhattan High School in 1972. Tom was a talented athlete, playing football, basketball and running track for Manhattan High School, lettering in many of these sports. In Tom’s high school years, Manhattan High did not offer a baseball program, so Tom’s summers were spent playing baseball for the American Legion. After graduating high school, Tom attended Kansas State University where he played on the football team for one year, and baseball for the rest of his college career. Tom lettered in baseball and belonged to the K-State Varsity Club. He also was a member of Kappa Sigma Fraternity. Tom’s love for the K-State Wildcats was lifelong.

After college, Tom worked for UPS and then NAVCO Construction. The construction job is where he gained a lot of “hands on training and knowledge” for his next career step with the United States Army Corps of Engineers. Tom worked as a construction representative for the Corp for 33 years, retiring on December 31, 2020. During his tenure with the Government at Fort Riley and Fort Leavenworth, Tom was recognized with many civilian awards for his achievements in his field.

On March 29, 1980, Tom was united in marriage with Phyllis Diane Deckness at Seven Dolors Catholic Church in Manhattan, Kansas. After their marriage, they made their home in Wamego, Kansas. Tom and Phyllis lived in Wamego for 38 years before moving to Shawnee, Kansas four years ago.

Tom’s life revolved around his family. He was a compassionate and loving husband, father, grandfather, brother and uncle, who was completely devoted to his family. When his children were young, Tom coached their softball, baseball and basketball teams. Later, when the grandchildren came along, he instituted “Papa Drills” where he taught them the fundamentals and agility needed to play each individual sport. He also taught them about “mindset in sports”, such as persistence, practice, effort and, both winning and losing with dignity. Tom was also a loyal fan of the Kansas City Chiefs and Royals.

Tom was preceded in death by his parents, Joe and Maria Vera; two brothers, Joseph Robert “Bobby” Vera and Raul Vera; one infant sister, Sandra and son-in-law, Neal Wissman.

He is survived by his loving wife of 42 years, Phyllis Vera of the home; one son, Thomas J. “T.J.” Vera, II and wife Bryn of Baytown, Texas; two daughters, Amanda Wissman of Shawnee, Kansas, and Tamara Newman of Junction City, Kansas; two brothers, Gerard Vera of Topeka, Kansas, and Rodney Vera and wife Emily of Manhattan, Kansas; two sisters, Olga Madigan and husband Jim of Lansing, Kansas, and Gerri Jennings and husband Bob of Oklahoma; six grandchildren, Mackenzie, Camryn, Margaret, Caroline, Reese and, Thomas J. III, “Tripp”; nieces, nephews, cousins, other relatives and many, many friends.

Cremation has been accorded. The family of Thomas J. “Tom” Vera will host a Celebration of Life from 1:00– 5:00 p.m. on September 24, 2022, at the Blue Hills Room in Manhattan, Kansas.
In Lieu of flowers, memorial donations, In Memory of Thomas J. Vera, are suggested to the Johnson Cancer Center at Kansas State University.

Cremation arrangements entrusted to Wallace Funeral Home, Pleasant Hill, MO


17 Messages

  • Linda Posted August 14, 2022 7:25 pm

    Phyllis and family, I am so sorry for your loss! My husband died of the same darn cancer pancreatic. I know what a struggle your family went through! Thoughts and prayers go out to you!

  • Gary Denning Posted August 17, 2022 9:55 am

    Tom was a good friend in junior high, and I knew him before that through sports. I moved away from Manhattan, but still saw Tom on the football field and basketball court. I re-acquainted with Tom at reunions for Manhattan HS and we had several memorable conversations over the last ten years or so. I’m sorry to hear of his passing. He will be missed by many.

  • Brad Roberts Posted August 19, 2022 10:38 am

    Phyllis, Janette and I are sorry to hear about Tom’s passing. We have great memories of KSU Football games and tailgating, Especially the early days when the stands were empty and we were one of the few fans in attendance, celebrating a good time…not necessarily any victories. We hope and pray your family will find peace in the memories of all of Tom’s deeds, his love for his family, and that terrific smile he always seemed to share.

  • Caroline Deckness Posted August 21, 2022 5:35 pm

    Such a great loss to to the family. Tom was loving caring person. He will forever be in our heart.

  • Darlene Bednarski Posted August 21, 2022 5:44 pm

    I I am so so sorry for your loss. I enjoyed myself around you and TOM a lot of times, he was always fun and very nice. He will be truly missed.

  • Jan Clark-Pinsince Posted August 27, 2022 2:31 pm

    Sending love, Phyllis…. to you and the kids and the grandkids..
    Tom will always be missed. Still thinking of you.

  • Bob Posted September 7, 2022 1:37 pm

    I just learned of Tom’s passing. A great guy that I respected as a fellow USACE employee. I am truly sorry for your family loss and he will be dearly missed. He was such a joy to be around and so uplifting and easy going. I would stop in to see Tom many times at Ft Riley and he always talked KSU football and offered me burritos. for lunch..

  • Lisa McCrann Posted September 22, 2022 4:43 pm

    I’m so sorry for your loss Phyllis. Tom was a treasured member of the 1972 KEEP ON TRUCKIN Class. Prayers and condolences to you and your families.

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